YouTube Project:

Dining With the Ex

Wait, read that last sentence--the EX?!

Yes, you guessed correctly!

This lovely entity, known as Kimy to The Novie and ELLE-1, is a living example of how letting go of emotional associations and old brain patterns can create a beautifil friendship between two or more people, and how these decisions can ultimately leave a person feeling more free to express and experience after a partnership has ended.

The issue that we run into in mainstream culture deals with ideas and judgments set into someone's mind even before they meet their future partner or spouse for the first time. These kinds of judgments, usually imprinted within us from childhood, school, government, our family, religion, etc., are ideas that usually hinder our growth rather than enhance it, which in turn leads to people stunting their own growth when they have committed to spend their lives together.

For example, the indication that money is one of the biggest causes of divorce is truly pathetic, when you think about it. Why? Because the cause is not really money. The cause has to do with the fear of money, a mindset that is set in poverty, and the inability to look at money for what it is: A tool or a means to help you acquire goods and services that can benefit you.

So rather than planning a budget, or exploring ways to acquire more money, people live with money reactively, rarely thinking ahead or becoming angry when money is scarce or lost. This of course leads to resentment and blame, which then leads to isolation, then finally divorce. 

And don't get me started with the blokes that budget everything down to the last crumb! Those individuals don't get off either. The mentality behind this kind of thinking is fear rather than moving forward as well. After all, they would not be looking so closely at every penny and pound if they did not fear loss of money or repeating the same mistake that lost them so much money in the first place.

Remember that in either case, the mentality running in the subconscious soundtrack, especially in the case of the Americans and Brits, is a judgment that money is evil and wrong to begin with.

This is just one of the many ways that we can self-sabotage each other when we are trying to stick together and build strength in numbers, whether through a marriage, family, partnership, tribe. you name it.

I know, I know. If that is the case, then this event of this lovely meeting does raise an eyebrow. There are probably a few questions swirling in your head. Among them,

"Who was she married to?"

"Did she leave him, or did he leave her, and why?"

"How is it they can all get along so well?"

Well, I'll let you blokes watch the video for answers to these questions, but quite honestly, these questions are rather inconsequential, except maybe the last one. Just keep this point in mind. This kind of relationship, even after the battle of divorce, can happen.